Have you ever heard the word which is called “Cyber Bulling”? The number of cyber bullying has been increasing because technology has developed dramatically, and people are able to access to the Internet easily.

 

What’s cyber bulling?

“Cyberbullying” is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. It has to have a minor on both sides, or at least have been instigated by a minor against another minor. Once adults become involved, it is plain and simple cyber-harassment or cyberstalking. Adult cyber-harassment or cyberstalking is never called cyberbullying.

What’s difference between offline behavior and online behavior?

Cyberbullying varies dramatically from offline bullying in many ways. For starters, the torment is no longer limited to face-to-face interactions in a controlled environment. It now carries over from the schoolyard, to the home, and the entire online community. Also, as mentioned above, bullies can come in all shapes and sizes, with either known or unknown identities. No longer is it about the one big bully picking on the smaller kid in the schoolyard. Anyone with an Internet connection of any kind can bully almost anyone else. Further, not only is cyber bullying more difficult to prevent, it can spread very quickly and leave a permanent online trail that can have devastating long-term consequences for both the bullied and the bully.

What should you do to deal with cyber bullying?

The first step is to stop responding to the cyber bully. Do not reply to emails, posts, IM’s or text messages. This is what the bully wants. They want you to engage with them. They want to manipulate you into responding. If you respond in any way that is emotional or lets them know that they are getting to you and are able to make you upset it only encourages the cyber bully. Bullies often suffer from low self-esteem and they want to feel better about themselves. Instead of doing something positive or succeeding at something or making a new friend a bully has learned to make themselves feel better by controlling, abusing and tearing down others. This gives them a sense of control and power they don’t have in their lives. Most bullies are actually quite weak and the same is true of cyber bullies. If you respond in a way that lets the bully know that you are angry, upset or afraid they will only be happy because they have managed to control your emotional state. Even if you do feel like that don’t give the cyber bully the satisfaction and encouragement by letting them know. It is especially important to not respond emotionally because this could make you send a reply that you might regret later. Messages sent on the internet are almost impossible to take back. If you lash back in anger you could find yourself the one who is being accused of being a cyber bully and the tables could be turned against you.

The most important thing is that parents need to be involved in their children’s online activities. Awareness is the key. Parents should keep open communication with thier children so they will feel comfortable enough to tell thier parents. They need to know that cyber bullying is not their fault.

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